Planning Your Pregnancy!

Happy New Year, my ladies and gents!

It’s the New Year and I know a lot of us are thinking about new beginnings whether it be on the fitness, mental, spiritual or life :). Making a big change in our lives is always nerve wrecking and we’re never sure if it’s the right thing or the right time. How can one even decide when the right time is to bring another human being into this world? Now that is a loaded question and only YOU know the right time. You and your partner should’ve probably already talking about this for a while now and you know this year might just be the right year for it! Some quick tips before I start on how to plan on getting pregnant:

What are the things to consider before getting pregnant?

TIPS:

  1. Being married for certain number of years does not determine your readiness for baby. This is a collaborative exercise and you and your partner need to feel ready emotionally, physically and yes financially.
  2. Do not listen to what others have to say, esp. my Desi Community people. First comes: “when are you getting married?”, then “when’s the baby you’ve been married for almost a year now” and next when’s the second baby. Does it ever end? Listen to YOURSELF.
  3. You will get anxious by the thought of it but think one little step at a time. You don’t have to think about birthing (trust me, this isn’t even the hardest part, oops) or sending them to college just yet. Again, listen to yourself and find out what the anxiety is about. Talk to your partner and talk to yourself on preparing yourself for this.

Just how do you plan, where do you start (besides the obvious), what are some pregnancy checklists? Let’s get started, shall we?

Health: assuming that you have made a decision on getting pregnant this year; the first and foremost thing to ensure is that you are healthy to have a baby. You may have heard; healthy mom equals healthy baby (considering everything goes well). Here are things to do:

A. Health is the number one priority for you when you plan to have a baby. Find a gynecologist and set up an appointment to get a physical, view your iron levels, any other blood work, etc. Your partners should also get a physical done along with blood work to get all the bases cleared. Now, I’m not a doctor so please use discretion when following any advice on this blog post. Take the right prenatal vitamins that works for you. I personally took the NatureMade. I also have heard great things about Rainbow. Take prenatal at least 3 months in advance of trying.

B. Physical health and fitness go hand in hand. No, you do not have to be an athlete or someone with a six-pack.. However, it is highly advisable to be physically active whether you do yoga, walk/run everyday for 30-45 min, or do other sports. Being involved in physical activities before and throughout the pregnancy will help you stay fit and also happy. It releases a chemical known as endorphins and it triggers positive feeling in the body. You want to stay positive throughout your pregnancy as they say the baby senses everything from the momma (no pressure) 🙂 However, if you are trying to lose weight, I highly encourage you to do so before trying because you can end up putting on a lot of weight during pregnancy and also after and the cycle will continue. Being in your best shape before pregnancy will help you get back into shape quicker too, just my experience. See my “What to eat and types of workout during pregnancy” post (coming soon).

C. Mental health plays a big part in the whole process. Keeping yourself calm (yet being yourself), composed and aware of your feelings will help you throughout the pregnancy journey (just life in general too!). I highly recommend doing at least a 10 min meditation (guided or self) to connect with yourself and your emotions. I personally used Headspace. Going back to staying positive meditation will definitely help you with that effort. You’ll thank me later 🙂

D. Financial planning is one of those topics that I know is really important but I am no expert on it. It should be understood that with an addition to your family your expenses are also going to increase. You should also think about whether you want to wait. It also depends on where and how you decide to spend your money towards your little one. For example, decorating baby room with the most high-end furnitures and carpets, etc. If you can afford it, great, if not, then don’t go crazy! Babies literally do not care about what’s in their surrounding and the older they grow the messier everything will get 🙂 So be wise and spend wisely.

Last but not the least, download an app that will help you keep track of your ovulation cycle. As crazy as it sounds, you will need to monitor the days that have ‘higher chances’ at you being pregnant and schedule your sessions with your partner accordingly! I used the Glow Cycle & Fertility Tracker and we followed it religiously. However, some people feel that it takes the excitement out of the whole thing and puts pressure on people. Do whatever works for you.

I’m sure there are a million other considerations you can search on the web. Just like with marriage, you will know when you’re ready to have a baby. I cannot emphasize this enough: use your judgment with the things you read on the internet. Not everything that is found on the web is true or even applies to you and your life. And remember, don’t be a hypochondriac!

Happy beginnings to those who are trying this year!

XO, Naya

Caring for a Sick Baby

Guys! This week my baby got stomach bug and it was scary! Being first time parents, my Hubby and I were nervous about the first real kind of illness for our LO but as always we were a great team and tackled the situation well!

So background: On Tuesday, our little chicken was a little fussy during the day while we were feeding her. Normally she enjoys her lunch time and finishes her lentil soup without any hassle. However, Wednesday was a little different. We just thought she was being difficult. Then throughout the day she was fine. She snacked on some mild cheddar cheese and grapes. We went for a walk and then came home around 7PM.  We put her to bed around 7:30 PM. She woke up crying around 10 PM (she does this often but also goes back to sleep instantly) and sat on her bed for a while (still crying). My husband went inside the room and found out that the bed was completely covered in her vomit. IT WAS SCARY! She was crying this whole time and needed mommy 🙁 We changed her, held her for a bit and since she was still very drowsy I put her down. She started crying again so I held her and soothe her. 2 min after that she started throwing up all the milk that she had in her and started crying. I was panicking but needed to stay calm so that baby can stay calm too. My husband called the nurse and we were told her monitor her for any rashes or temperature and also recommended Pedialyte.  I held her for most of the night (it was a rough night) and made sure she got some sleep. Wednesday morning, she woke up with a temperature of about 101 (rectal). We gave her Tylenol and monitored her temp throughout the day.  Again, that day, I held her for most of the day and comforted her. We only gave her formula and no solids and Pedialyte every now and then. We also made sure that she had enough wet diapers (4-5) for that day and her stool was okay i.e. no blood. She had about 25 ounces of milk that day (she normally does 30 ounces plus solids) and did not want to eat anything else. We gave her Tylenol just an hour before her last bottle of milk for the night and she went to bed at 7 PM. She slept through the night 🙂 but I checked up on her occasionally just to make sure she was ok, no temperature. And today she is doing even better 🙂

Baby Care Tips:

  1. Best to have baby medicine available (check expiration date). I recommend keeping Tylenol, Pedialyte on shelf. Always ask your doctor for recommended dosage of medicine, it varies by age/weight.
  2. If you’re giving medicine to your baby, try giving it before food (at least 30 min before) and not with the food. That way the medicine is absorbed by the body even if they throw up.
  3. Listen to your baby. Baby’s have this special way of communicating to their parents if they need something. We knew she needed to be held (even when putting to sleep) and that’s what we did. Babies feel better when they are well rested. Don’t change their sleep cycle, keep all the routine the same.
  4. Couples working together! If mom is taking care of the baby then dad can take care of household chores such as food prep (and vice versa). Take care of each other! We took turns taking naps since we were both quite sleep deprived.
  5. Take a deep breath! That’s exactly what I did when I found myself panicking. My panic wasn’t going to resolve the situation. I need to take care of things so I took care of my anxiety before that.
  6. Wash your hands often, clean your surroundings AND if you’re sick avoid kissing the baby no matter how irresistible they are (nom nom)

Important Note: don’t forgot cuddles, LOT OF CUDDLES!

Our babies are growing up and building up their immunity.

Hope this helps!

XO, Naya