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Planning Your Pregnancy!

Happy New Year, my ladies and gents!

It’s the New Year and I know a lot of us are thinking about new beginnings whether it be on the fitness, mental, spiritual or life :). Making a big change in our lives is always nerve wrecking and we’re never sure if it’s the right thing or the right time. How can one even decide when the right time is to bring another human being into this world? Now that is a loaded question and only YOU know the right time. You and your partner should’ve probably already talking about this for a while now and you know this year might just be the right year for it! Some quick tips before I start on how to plan on getting pregnant:

TIPS:

  1. Being married for certain number of years does not determine your readiness for baby. This is a collaborative exercise and you and your partner need to feel ready emotionally, physically and yes financially.
  2. Do not listen to what others have to say, esp. my Desi Community people. First comes: “when are you getting married?”, then “when’s the baby you’ve been married for almost a year now” and next when’s the second baby. Does it ever end? Listen to YOURSELF.
  3. You will get anxious by the thought of it but think one little step at a time. You don’t have to think about birthing (trust me, this isn’t even the hardest part, oops) or sending them to college just yet. Again, listen to yourself and find out what the anxiety is about. Talk to your partner and talk to yourself on preparing yourself for this.

Just how do you plan, where do you start (besides the obvious), what are some pregnancy checklists? Let’s get started, shall we?

Health: assuming that you have made a decision on getting pregnant this year; the first and foremost thing to ensure is that you are healthy to have a baby. You may have heard; healthy mom equals healthy baby (considering everything goes well). Here are things to do:

A. Health is the number one priority for you when you plan to have a baby. Find a gynecologist and set up an appointment to get a physical, view your iron levels, any other blood work, etc. Your partners should also get a physical done along with blood work to get all the bases cleared. Now, I’m not a doctor so please use discretion when following any advice on this blog post. Take the right prenatal vitamins that works for you. I personally took the NatureMade. I also have heard great things about Rainbow. Take prenatal at least 3 months in advance of trying.

B. Physical health and fitness go hand in hand. No, you do not have to be an athlete or someone with a six-pack.. However, it is highly advisable to be physically active whether you do yoga, walk/run everyday for 30-45 min, or do other sports. Being involved in physical activities before and throughout the pregnancy will help you stay fit and also happy. It releases a chemical known as endorphins and it triggers positive feeling in the body. You want to stay positive throughout your pregnancy as they say the baby senses everything from the momma (no pressure) 🙂 However, if you are trying to lose weight, I highly encourage you to do so before trying because you can end up putting on a lot of weight during pregnancy and also after and the cycle will continue. Being in your best shape before pregnancy will help you get back into shape quicker too, just my experience. See my “What to eat and types of workout during pregnancy” post (coming soon).

C. Mental health plays a big part in the whole process. Keeping yourself calm (yet being yourself), composed and aware of your feelings will help you throughout the pregnancy journey (just life in general too!). I highly recommend doing at least a 10 min meditation (guided or self) to connect with yourself and your emotions. I personally used Headspace. Going back to staying positive meditation will definitely help you with that effort. You’ll thank me later 🙂

D. Financial planning is one of those topics that I know is really important but I am no expert on it. It should be understood that with an addition to your family your expenses are also going to increase. You should also think about whether you want to wait. It also depends on where and how you decide to spend your money towards your little one. For example, decorating baby room with the most high-end furnitures and carpets, etc. If you can afford it, great, if not, then don’t go crazy! Babies literally do not care about what’s in their surrounding and the older they grow the messier everything will get 🙂 So be wise and spend wisely.

Last but not the least, download an app that will help you keep track of your ovulation cycle. As crazy as it sounds, you will need to monitor the days that have ‘higher chances’ at you being pregnant and schedule your sessions with your partner accordingly! I used the Glow Cycle & Fertility Tracker and we followed it religiously. However, some people feel that it takes the excitement out of the whole thing and puts pressure on people. Do whatever works for you.

I’m sure there are a million other considerations you can search on the web. Just like with marriage, you will know when you’re ready to have a baby. I cannot emphasize this enough: use your judgment with the things you read on the internet. Not everything that is found on the web is true or even applies to you and your life. And remember, don’t be a hypochondriac!

Happy beginnings to those who are trying this year!

XO, Naya

Baby Shower Gift Registry Solved!

Ah you’re about 32+ weeks and getting excited for your baby shower. Who doesn’t love being celebrated? The feeling of being showered with love and being around your loved ones is all I wanted for my baby shower. Getting gifts for others is always challenging! However, when it comes to picking gifts for yourself, it’s always an exciting time. Well baby shower isn’t quite picking gifts for yourself (sort of is, though) the process of finalizing baby shower gift registry is laborious to say the least. It’s an art you see:

  1. You need to categorize the items you need
  2. Then you need to start identifying all the different brands of products you want
  3. Then you need to research these products for benefits, safety and ease of use
  4. Decide whether to go with Amazon baby registry, Target, or mix it up?
  5. Lastly, you’ll need time, a lot of time to narrow down your gift registry

It requires a lot of patience which is a good practice for what’s to come soon 🙂 I spend numerous hours researching and was finally able to come up with my registry (message me if you would like a link to it). I did however realize that there were certain items I could have done away with. With that said, here’s my suggestion on what you really need for baby shower gift registry:

Big ticket items:

  1. Bassinet/Crib: We really like our Halo Bassinest Swivel Sleeper. Pros: The Swivel feature is quite nifty when you need your baby to be closer to you. I also highly recommend adding Graco Pack and Play to your gift registry. Baby can just hang in here while you eat or do other chores. We also used this as our LO temporary crib when she started rolling over.
  2. Car Seat: ours is a Chicco Infant Seat; however, I think I would recommend Britax Pros: runs wider, good side impact, consistently ranks high and ease of use
  3. Baby changing pad: we absolutely love our Hatch Baby Grow Smart Changing Pad. Pros: keep track through App on your phone, smooth and soft surface, easy to clean, does not get cold or warm and most importantly you can weigh your baby (before and after feed). This is especially useful if we want to know just how much breastmilk your baby is getting. I may have been paranoid about it. Con: sometimes the weight may be off if you have things around it (kinda annoying)
  4. Stroller: We had the Chicco Keyfit Caddy but soon realized that we needed something more sturdy which can be used for up to 2 years and may be more if we choose to have more babies. So, we switched to Uppababy Vista. Ok yes, this one is expensive but we thought it was well worth our investment because our baby is so much more comfortable in this. Pros: comes with a bassinet which we used for road trips. The stroller is so much sturdier and also very easy to maneuver. Cons: It is kinda bulky and takes up a bit more space than Chicco.
  5. Baby Monitor: We have a small place yet we found it extremely helpful to have the Infant Optics Baby Monitor. Pros: easy to assemble, has good coverage. Cons: does not show correct temp of the room, signal can be weak (out of coverage), battery life could be improved.
  6. Activity Gym: our LO really enjoyed being on her little gym. I would definitely recommend getting one of these
  7. Sound Machine: I’m sure you can just use a laptop or a phone for sound but that may not be convenient. We continue to use our Hatch Baby Rest sound machine. Pros: can control volume, sound, color through app on your phone.

Baby Essentials:

  1. Sleep Swaddle: in the first few weeks (up to 3 months) babies loved to be swaddled. Our LO broke out of SwaddleMe swaddles within the first month. So we ended up using Miracle Blanket Swaddle quite a bit. This one definitely seemed to work a lot more and I would highly recommend it. Last but not the least my very favorite is Halo Sleepsack. We slowly progressed from swaddle to sleepsack to now early walkers. We’ve been quite loyal to Halo so far 🙂
  2. Baby Hygiene: I don’t know how but babies tend to create a lot of booger. The Fridababy Nasal Aspirator is a weird but genius idea by Fridababy. It’s so much easy to suck the booger this way than having to use that suction bulb which omg ugh just get Frida. I would also get the Frida nail filers. Trust me, clipping nails in early weeks is quite nerve racking.
  3. Bath time: Keep it simple. I like the Aveeno products but go with what suits your baby. We also got a tiny bathtub but if you have a big enough sink I think you should be able to use a large bucket. We really like her big baby bath tub
  4. Aquaphor: this is a MUST. Order multiples. It will help your baby not get rashes. We apply this generously on our LO’s tush before putting her to sleep and it helps her sleep through the night. Obviously, this is before you move on to night diapers but we continue to use it.
  5. Pacifier: this is a hit or a miss. Some babies can’t be without a pacifier, others hate it. In the early months we got our LO used to this; however, after 5 months we weaned her off.
  6. Baby Carriers: I too was skeptical about some of these baby carriers. However, once I actually put in the effort to learn to use them, they came in very handy! My two favorites are Solly Baby Wrap and Ergobaby. Please do take time to watch the instruction videos on YouTube and you’ll find yourself using these everywhere you go.

These are just a few of the absolute musts (besides diapers, wipes, bottles) from my gift registry. I hope this helps you get started with you baby shower gift registry!

Good luck!

Xo, Naya

Preparing for postpartum

As mamas or to be mamas, we have so meticulously put together all the baby essentials well before (may be a day or two ago 🤣) baby’s arrival. In all the excitement preparing for the baby, we tend to forget about ourselves and what we need. I hope that this post will help at least one person prepare better for postpartum. This post contains a list of products I used during pregnancy and postpartum.

Note: for all the dads to be reading this post, 🥇 for you if you can get all of this sorted and organized for your baby mamas 😀

Breastfeeding Essentials:

Bamboobies Nursing Pad whether you’re breastfeeding or pumping, these pads are a must for you to avoid leakage.

Breastpump: I used the Spectra Breast Pump which I really liked. It doesn’t make as much noise as some of the other so called ‘hospital grade’ pumps. Please check if your insurance covers breast pumps. You may want to read up on the instructions and set this up before the baby comes. The last thing you want to do, during zombie-mode, is learn how to use the pump. More on everything breastfeeding in the next post!

Bottles/Rack/Milk Storage: Doctors recommend introducing your baby to bottles in the first 6 weeks of life because apparently they won’t take the bottle, otherwise. We got Avent bottles and also used the bottles that come with Spectra Pump. Our LO (little one) was fine with either of the bottles. I know some babies can be picky so you may need to experiment. However, don’t give up! Especially if you’re going to be going back to work.

You’ll also need a drying rack for the bottles. Lastly, if you have good supply, milk it (pun intended)! Get freezer safe storage bags, a marker and dividers for your fridge to store milk.

Nursing Bras: Get at least 4 of these. You’re going to need them! Wearing under wire bras are going to be pretty rough in the beginning and you want easy access for the baby. Warning: you may never want to go back to normal bra lol

Self Care:

Extra Heavy Maxi Pads: if you have not heard this before, let me be the first to share the news, you bleed a lot after delivering a baby. For weeks! These along with some Depend will be your friends for a while!

Earth mama natural nipple butter I literally used this everyday, each time I breastfed, for about 7 months. The first few months of breastfeeding was brutal and I had cracked nipple. This butter helped me a ton. Breastfeeding post coming soon!

Wet Wipes: trust me, you don’t want toilet paper down there for a while 🙃

Peri Cleansing Bottle: I got a squirt bottle from the hospital and it was easy and simple. Remember anything postpartum should be convenient to use. I know a lot of people also get the Frida momwasher

Shea Butter: this really helped me during and after pregnancy. My belly was really dry throughout pregnancy so my husband would apply this on my belly everyday :). I can’t vouch for whether this helped with stretch marks though.

Massage Oil: before you do any kind of home massage be sure to check with your doctor. I really liked this Aroma Therapy massage oil as it helped relax my muscles. I used it during pregnancy as well as after baby. In some parts of the world, it is recommended to get oil massage everyday, postpartum, as it helps the body recover faster.

Postpartum Belly Wrap: if you had C-section, this is a must! In general the belly wrap is supposed to help get the belly back in place; however, it also helped me greatly with any lower back pains after numerous hours of breastfeeding and holding the baby.

Others:

Mattress Protector: I got a new mattress so decided to protect it. I had a number of ‘accidents’ so i was glad I bought this!

Beverage Storage: It’s important to drink lots of fluid (lentil soup, bone broth, fenugreek water, etc.) the first few months to maintain milk supply. It’ll be handy to keep one of these at home. Prepare the liquid of your choice in the morning and drink up all day!

Water Bottle: have a water bottle with spout always by your side. Remember you’ll need to stay hydrated because you’re now hydrating another life 🙂

 

List

1. Bamboobies

2. Spectra

3. Milk Storage

4. Bottles

5. Maxi Pad

6. Nipple Butter

7. Wet Wipes

8. Peri Cleansing Bottle

9. Shea Butter

10. Massage Oil

11. Mattress Protector

12. Beverage Storage

13. Water Bottle

I’d like to know what else you guys would add that I may have missed.

XO Naya